Researchers and psychologists suggest that humans are born with two innate fears, and they may not be what you think they are. The first is the fear of falling. The second is the fear of loud noises. Both are instinctive fears, meant to alert us to danger. All other fears are developed from our own experiences, relationships, and the deepest, darkest crevices of our minds that will often place monsters under our beds as kids.
Experts will also posit that the fear we humans have the most difficult time overcoming and dealing with is the fear of other people. That’s right, spiders and snakes are off the hook. The fear of other people is the common denominator to many fears we already know about. Fear of public speaking is the fear of what other people will think of us; fear of asking for help is the fear of judgement or rejection by other people; fear of asking for the sale or for a referral is fear of rejection of other people; and fear of starting your own business, publishing a book, and starting over to do what you want (among many other things) is a fear of failure (really what other people think). In the end, the real monsters under the bed are our family, friends, colleagues, employees, co-workers and even people we don’t even know.
Fears related to dangers like falling, getting burned, or being injured or dying are instinctive and keep us resilient and safe. Fear of being judged by or being rejected by another person is a very real human trait, yet is actually dysfunctional. These self-created fears of “other people” will ultimately keep one from unleashing their potential and living the life they most want. Consider this….
The vast majority of the “other people” you fear being judged by aren’t actually going to judge you negatively at all. They may actually admire your efforts and courage. The ones that do judge you negatively are only a source of distraction and need to be swiftly cut loose (or at least significantly reduced) from your life so you can be free to unleash your business, your career, and your life. You don’t have time for monsters under your bed; so fear no one and go forward boldly with your life.
Quote of the Week:
”If you’ve done well, it’s your duty to send the elevator back down.”
~ Kevin Spacey
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